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New Year resolution: learn to "attach" - I should be past cut-and-paste by now

Little lecture here: If your life is pleasant, but with no terrible events, wonderful! So was mine! But there are no guarantees. When my eldest son died over a year ago, he left no will. Taking care of his estate was beyond challenging. Finally we turned it over to a lawyer, and it was settled quickly.

Little lecture here: If your life is pleasant, but with no terrible events, wonderful! So was mine! But there are no guarantees.

When my eldest son died over a year ago, he left no will. Taking care of his estate was beyond challenging. Finally we turned it over to a lawyer, and it was settled quickly.

My only daughter died this last October, but she had had a lawyer draw up her will, and all necessary documents, and her estate was dealt with quickly – no snags.

So, in that length of time, I learned a little about probate, although I'm definitely not interested in learning more.

I also learned a lot about "stuff," when I moved into a seniors' apartment.

I faced a problem: the 50-year family life accumulation of stuff. They purposely invent new stuff to make your old stuff look outdated. We fell for it.

I did search Merriam-Webster for another word for overused "stuff." There really isn't one but plenty of descriptions, many quite funny. So, "stuff it," I guess!

Their best description: "materials, supplies, or equipment used in various activities." Wow! We were the Various Activities Champions of the world! The flotsam and jetsam of family hobbies and activities lay all over the place, long after the kids have left home.

I gave stuff to charity. I gave stuff to friends. I gave stuff to anyone who happened to be just standing there. "Would you like some of this nice ribbon collection?"

What was left of, well, stuff, wouldn't fit into my apartment, and I was having trouble getting takers. The lady down the street was avoiding me.

I was stuffocating!

You're likely ahead of me on all this, but I learned some things to pass on, just in case. First: get your will and all legal matters done. Not next year, now. No one is invincible. You'll save your survivors many problems.

But for now, when life's race is about run, and you look back on 50 years, instead of forward to 50, my advice? Get your will made. And "destuffocate" so your kids won't be left to fight over all those vases, dishes, and the Ukrainian embroidered tablecloth.

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I wish you a Merry Christmas, but with reservations. Who needs more stuff? Tell the kids we seniors just want them and their kids to be there with you, not bearing gifts, but just to be all together, around the table, sharing all the fun of a good old fashioned Canadian Christmas. Much joy to you!

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Missing the children? Missing your own childhood? Bring back precious memories, by putting "Isla Grant Childhood Memories" in your browser, or in You Tube. You'll play this again and again. You'll shed tears. In You Tube, you'll see more wonderful things she recorded for us.

Edith Kirby can be reached at Maritimer1@gmail.com.